Paraphrased from the book "The Language of Letting Go" by Melody Beattie

I needlessly confuse myself and divert my energy by thinking that my present moment is a mistake. But I am right where I need to be for now.  My feelings, thoughts, circumstances, challenges, tasks - all of it is on schedule.

I refuse to spoil the beauty of the present moment by wishing for something else.

"GRATITUDE"

Paraphrased from a short documentary by Louie Schwartzberg

I think this is just another day in my life? It's not just another day. It's the one day that is given to me today. It's given to me. It's a gift. It's the only gift that I have right now, and the only appropriate response is gratefulness. If I do nothing else but to cultivate that response to the great gift that this unique day is, if I learn to respond as if it were the first day in my life and the very last day, then I will have spent this day very well.

I begin by opening my eyes and be surprised that I have eyes I can open, that incredible array of colors that is constantly offered to me for pure enjoyment. Look at the sky. I note how different it is from moment to moment, with clouds coming and going. I think of all the many nuances of weather.  This day, right now, has unique weather, maybe a kind that will never exactly in that form come again. That formation of clouds in the sky will never be the same as it is right now. I open my eyes. Look at that.

Look at the faces of people whom I meet. Each one has an incredible story behind their face, a story that I could never fully fathom, not only their own story, but the story of their ancestors. We all go back so far, and in this present moment, on this day, all the people I meet, all that life from generations and from so many places all over the world flows together and meets me here like a life-giving water, if I only open my heart and drink.

Open my heart to the incredible gifts that civilization gives to me. I flip a switch and there is electric light. I turn a faucet and there is warm water and cold water, and drinkable water. It's a gift that millions and millions in the world will never experience.

So these are just a few of an enormous number of gifts to which I can open my heart to. And so I wish that I will open my heart to all these blessings, and let them flow through me, that everyone whom I will meet on this day will be blessed by me, just by my eyes, by my smile, by my touch, just by my presence. Let the gratefulness overflow into blessing all around me, and I will let myself be open to those blessings that are returned to me, and then it will really be a good day.

Going with the flow

Paraphrased from Melody Beatties's  "The Language of Letting Go"

   Go with the flow.
   Let go of fear and my need to control. Relinquish anxiety. Let it slip away, as I dive into the river of the present moment, the river of my life, my place in the universe.
   Stop trying to force the direction. Try not to swim against the current, unless it is necessary for my survival.  If  I've been clinging to a branch at the riverside, let go.
   Let myself move forward. Let myself be moved forward.
   Avoid the rapids when possible. If I can't, stay relaxed. Staying relaxed can take me safely through fierce currents. If I go under for a moment , I allow myself to surface naturally. I will.
   Appreciate the beauty of the scenery, as it is. See things with freshness, with newness. I shall never pass by today's scenery again!
   Don't think too hard about things. The flow is meant to be experienced. Within it, care for myself. I am part of the flow, an important part. Move with the flow. Work within the flow. Thrashing about isn't necessary. Let the flow help me care for myself. Let it help me set boundaries, make decisions, and get me where I need to be when it is time.
   I can trust the flow, and my part in it.
   I go with the flow.

Higher Power's Will

Paraphrased from Melody Beattie's  "The Language of Letting Go"

   Higher Power's will most often happens in spite of me, not because of me.
   I may try to second guess what Higher Power has in mind for me, looking, searching, hyper vigilant to seek Higher Power's will as though it were a buried treasure, hidden beyond my reach. If I find it, I win the prize. But if I'm not careful, I miss out.
   That's not how it works.
   I may believe that I have to walk on eggshells, saying, thinking, and feeling the right thing, while forcing myself somehow to be in the right place at the right time to find Higher Power's will. But that's not true.
   Higher Power's will for me is not hidden like a buried treasure. I do not have to control or force it .  I do not have to walk on eggshells in order to have it happen.
   It is right here inside and around me. It is happening right now. Sometimes, it is quiet and uneventful and includes the daily disciplines of responsibility and learning to take care of myself. Sometimes, it is healing me when I'm in circumstances that trigger old grieving and unfinished business.
   Sometimes, it is grand.
   I do have a part. I have responsibilities, including caring for myself. But I do not have to control Higher Power's will for me. I am being taken care of. I am protected. And the Power caring for and protecting me loves me very much.
   If it is a quiet day, trust the stillness. If it is a day of action, trust the activity. If it is time to wait, trust the pause. If it is time to receive that which I have been waiting for, trust that it will happen clearly and with power, and receive the gift in joy.

   I will trust that Higher Power's will is happening as it needs to in my life. I will not make myself anxious and upset by searching vigorously for Higher Power's will, taking unnecessary actions to control the course of my destiny or wondering if Higher Power's will has passed me by and I have missed it.

Surrender

Paraphrased from Melody Beattie's "The Language of Letting Go"

   Master the lessons of my present circumstances.
   I do not move forward by resisting what is undesirable in my life today. I move forward, I grow, I change by acceptance.
   Avoidance is not the key; surrender opens the door.
   Listen to this truth: I am in my present circumstances for a reason. There is a lesson, a valuable lesson,that must be learned before I can move forward.
   Something important is being worked out in me, and in those around me. I may not not be able to identify it today, but I can know that it is important. I can know it is good.
   Overcome not by force, overcome by surrender. The battle is fought, and won, inside myself. I must go through it until I learn, until I accept, until I become grateful, until I am set free.

I will be open to the lessons of my present circumstances. I do not have to label, know, or understand what I am learning; I will see clearly in time. For today trust and gratitude are sufficient.

Loving Myself Unconditionally

Paraphrased from a passage from "The Language of Letting Go", written by Melody Beattie.

   Love myself into health and a good life of my own.
   Love myself into relationships that work for me and the other person. Love myself into peace, happiness, joy, success, and contentment.
   Love myself into all that I always wanted.  I can stop treating myself the way others treated me, if they behaved in a less than healthy, desirable way. If I have learned to see myself critically, conditionally, and in a diminishing and punishing way, it's time to stop. Other people may have treated me that way, but it's even worse to treat myself that way now.
   Loving myself may seem foreign, even foolish at times. People may accuse me of being selfish. I don't have to believe them.
   I am able to love myself and am  truly able love others and let others love me.  I am able to love myself and hold myself in high esteem, and am able to give the most, contribute the most, love the most.
   How do I love myself?  By forcing it at first. By faking it if necessary.  By "acting as if." By working as hard at loving and liking myself as I had at not liking myself.
   Explore what it means to love myself.
   Do things for myself that reflect compassionate, nurturing, self love.
   Embrace and love all of myself - past, present, and future. Forgive myself quickly and as often necessary. Encourage myself. Tell myself good things about myself.
   If I think and believe negative ideas, I get them out in the open quickly and honestly, so I can replace those beliefs with better ones.
   Patting myself on the back when necessary. Discipline myself when necessary. Ask for help, for time; ask for what I need.
   Sometimes, give myself treats. Do not treat myself like a pack mule, always pushing and driving harder. Learn to be good to myself. Choose behaviors with preferable consequences - treating myself well is one.
   Learn to stop my pain, even when that means making difficult decisions. Do not unnecessarily deprive myself. Sometimes, give myself what I want, just because I want it.
   Stop explaining and justifying myself. When I make mistakes, let them go. I learn, I grow, and I learn some more. And through it all I love myself.
   I work at it, then work at it some more. One day I'll wake up, look in the mirror, find that loving myself has become habitual. I'm now living with a person who gives and receives love, because I love myself. Self-love will take hold and become a guiding force in my life.
  

Letting the Cycles Flow

Paraphrased from a passage from "The Language of Letting Go", written by Melody Beattie.

   Life is cyclical, not static. My relationships benefit when I allow them to follow their own natural cycles.
   Like the tide ebbs and flows, so do the cycles in relationships. I have periods of closeness and periods of distance. I have times of coming together and times of separating to work on individual issues.
   I have times of love and joy,and times of anger.
   Sometimes the dimensions of relationships change  as I go through changes. Sometimes, life brings me new friends or a new loved one to teach me the next lesson.
   I do not have to control the course of my relationships,whether these be friendships or love relationships. I do not have to satisfy my need to control by imposing a static form on relationships.
   Let it flow. Be open to the cycles. Love will not disappear. The bond between friends will not sever. Things do not remain the same forever,especially when I am growing and changing at such a rapid pace.
   Trust the flow. Take care of myself,but be willing to let people go. Hanging on to them too tightly will make them disappear.
   The old adage about love still holds true:"If it's meant to be,it will be. And if I love someone, let them go. If they come back to me, the love is mine."

I accept the cyclical nature of life and relationships. I will strive to go with the flow. I will strive for harmony with my own needs and the needs of the other person.